Power of one

No, this is NOT a religious post.

Nothing against religion, just keep it to yourself. No, no, no. I'm talking about YOU! YOURSELF! Everyone knows that taking care of yourself is important, but do you realize how important it is? It's not just taking care of your appearance, or health. It's about taking care of your soul, your emotions, your feelings. The phrase "you wear your heart on your sleeve" is more than just about your love life.

You've all heard or read this from me MULTIPLE times. I don't understand why people don't want to smell good. I'mma say it again too! All of us no matter what shape or size, have a certain level of pride within themselves. If I see an obese person on the street with a dirty stained shirt and pants that show their ass crack, I ultimately come to one conclusion. Serious lack of pride, or value to themselves. I mean honestly, it makes sense. The people that just "let themselves go" (and that means mentally also!), scream to me that they don't give a shit about themselves. If you cared about yourself, would you go out looking like a slob? Probably not. I enjoy feeling good about myself. Inside and out. No, I don't dress to impress. I dress how I see fit, meaning clean and presentable. I'm getting myself into a crazy debate, I just know it! 

Okay, so maybe some people like to be dirty and smell like rotting feet. That's GREAT for YOU. I just don't think you're being realistic. Just because I was over weight, did not mean I denied myself from soap and water. Most people actually compromise being larger, by excelling at other things in their appearance. My good friend has lots of awesome tattoos, another friend of mine is really great at doing her make up, another accessorizes like no other! Regardless of what others think of you, you should be more concerned with how and what you think of yourself. 

I am not one of those people who enjoy being at the mercy of other people. Independence is the greatest quality I have earned in my 26 years of life. If you don't care about your life, who the hell is going to? The lack of giving a shit about yourself I see in some people, scares me A LOT. That's fine if you want to skate by in life, just don't expect me to help you! I wish everyone could have the motivation and more importantly the courage to give a damn about their lives. I don't get it, like WHY DON'T YOU CARE?!

And last soapbox topic for this post, the meaning of relationships. Being happy in a relationship, does not mean your happiness should ride on someone else. Like what the hell!? Listen, I get it. We've all been there. Bottom line is, you should listen to your mom when she tells you "you yourself, are your own best friend". Take care of yourself and be happy single. If you're not happy single, I doubt you'll be happy when you're in a relationship. Counting on someone else to base your emotions on, is a risky thing to do. Some people are just desperate to be in relationships and happy. They depend on a man to make them feel love. That's what kills me the most. FOR THE RECORD, I AM NOT A MAN BASHER! You should be able to feel love all around you! Find love in yourself, in your family and friends, LOVE YOUR LIFE.  I am a firm believe that everyone has a purpose. Don't waste it. Not giving a shit or caring about yourself, is the biggest disappointment you can make to your loved ones dead or alive. I freaking mean it. All those life lessons and love was wasted on you, someone who refuses to care about their life or lack there of. 

It has taken me a little while to realize some of these lessons in my life. My youth was not spent on being spoiled on having things handed to me, having no work ethic and morals. Maybe it's just the simple fact that some people haven't gone through what I have, and vice versa. All I know is, I see a lot of WASTING on a whole lot of NOTHING going on. 

There is no manual on how to love yourself. It's kind of something you have to learn on your own. As much as you nod your head and agree with someone it's important, you don't find out how to do it until you get some harsh realities thrown at you. I'll tell you what though. Once you figure out what it really means to love and take care of yourself, you'll be a happier person. Your confidence will boost, and you'll be ready to take on anything that comes to you. As long as you get right with yourself, you can get right with the rest of the people out there in the real world. Take my advice, give yourself a little TLC before the opportunity passes you by.