Nip it in the bud

Easier said than done!

I will be forever grateful when this week is over. Entering a career at such a young age, can be super difficult at times. I've been working professionally for five years now. When I started, I wasn't even legal to drink yet! 20 years old, seemed like a good age to get a firm grasp on things. They don't ever teach you in school how to deal with various things. Developing people skills, is something that you just can't teach someone. 

I've been fortunate enough to been raised in such a social setting. I learned early on, how to work people. How to take signals and hints. Being an observant child made me understand people more. Observant as in, sit back and watch for a bit. I've had to make decisions recently that involved dealing with confrontation. Ew. I despise confrontation. I don't like doing it, especially in the work place where I risk getting a boot to the ass.

Anyone who knows me, would probably consider me to be super friendly. I totally am super friendly, but I have no problems being a heinous bitch when it gets right down to it. I'd honestly rather not be, but some people just push me to the point where I gotta do what I gotta do! When i don't like someone, I usually just ignore them and avoid them. It's easier for me to remove myself from the situation versus exploding upon impact. There is never a nice way to confront someone. Either way, it is going to absolutely be uncomfortable with both parties. 

I've been dealing with addressing and confronting people in the work place for the past year. Although I feel like I'm getting better at it, I can't help but feel like people don't take me seriously sometimes. I've been pegged and labeled as a guilty by association thing and it's not fun. Once someone puts a label on you, it tends to stick. I don't give a rats ass about what other people think about me. What I do give a shit about, is working effectively. I go there to get a paycheck, and I'm good at what I do. To anyone who has gone through this, I'm sure it gets better right? Eventually things will even out sooner or later, and I'll just learn how to cope with these things better. No one should have to tolerate feeling uncomfortable in the workplace. We all do things as defense mechanisms and to each their own. Your choice in dealing with something, may not be someone else's view of "doing it properly". 

I would give advice to anyone dealing with this from what I know. It is better to nip things in the bud when they start, but really you should definitely think things through first. Don't just make a rash action, because you're all emotional. Take some time out to figure out what the exact problem is, and then go from there. I've learned to do this, and I feel like it's made a difference for me personally. How my actions have been viewed by others, are a different story. Don't wait and let things fester, take care of business while it's still fresh and you still can. Just some food for thought.